Coming from a young adult, divorce is not the best experience someone can go through. For those who have been through divorce or are now experiencing a divorce as children or young adults, you are not alone in this. Divorce is a harsh word for some who have experienced it with their parents or relatives, or who are going through it themselves. Dealing with a divorce between fighting siblings, taking sides with parents or families can be very exhausting. Some think that marriage can be happiness and last a lifetime. You have ups and downs, and they keep you with that person and your family. Sadly, divorce has become common in the United States. According to the CDC, in 2011 the number of marriages was 2,118,000, the marriage rate was 6.8 per 1,000 inhabitants, and the divorce rate was 3.6 per 1,000 inhabitants. On the 2011 US Divorce Rates Map, rates are highest in the following cities; Panama, FL, Sierra Vista, AZ and Charleston, WV, Medford, OR, Reno, NV. Although social scientists have tried to debunk these myths, somehow the conventional wisdom has remained.
In Black’s Law Dictionary divorce is defined as (a legal separation of a man and a woman, effected, for just cause, by a court ruling, and others completely dissolving the marital relationship and suspending its effects as regards coexistence Of the parties.) When children are involved, things can get complicated when it comes to determining who gets the kids on weekends, holidays, summer, and during the school years. Even for couples for whom divorce seems imminent, that doesn’t negate the need to work together on behalf of the children. Children (and adult children) have the attitude that their parents should be able to work and solve any problem. Parents, who have given life to children, are perceived by children as highly competent people with supernatural abilities to meet the needs of children. The financial part of the divorce is where the court determines who is awarded alimony or child support.
During a divorce, changes in relationships can cause division between family and friends. In the case of divorce, there are advantages and disadvantages, but know that you are not the only one experiencing it. Connect with children and spouses, keeping the line of communication open while the children understand the divorce. From this article, I want to encourage you that it is not easy but that it gets better, and to apply the information by seeking a counselor for you and your loved ones.