Relationships are unique beasts. They usually take on a life of their own and progress at a rate that is hopefully in sync with what both the woman and man involved want. Sometimes the couple walks two separate paths with one heading towards something more serious while the other seems content with a casual date. Most of the time it is the woman who wants to secure a commitment to her boy. We women understand this, since we recognize how rare it is to find a man who fills us in every way. Other than giving your guy an ultimatum, is there any other way to make him take you more seriously? You may think not, but there are actually a series of very simple, yet incredibly effective steps you can take to show him why you are the woman he should dedicate his heart and life to.
Make the relationship fun and drama free as possible.
It wouldn’t surprise you at all if I said that women tend to be more dramatic than men when it comes to relationships, right? We all know it’s true. As women, we often seem to stumble upon issues just waiting to be addressed. We raise them with the man we adore, and before we know it, they have taken on a life of their own and an argument ensues. For men there really is no rhyme or reason for this. All they want to do is have an emotionally satisfying, fun and easy relationship. Men don’t want to be in a relationship that is hard work. It doesn’t appeal to them at all.
That is why it is essential that you keep the drama, within your relationship, to a minimum. There are many advantages that come with skipping the small stuff. I know it can be troublesome to be with a man who sometimes looks at a pretty girl walking by and it can be discouraging if he doesn’t always remember your birthday or other important events. You need to assess how important those things are to you versus how fulfilling it is when the relationship is in a good, peaceful, and loving place. As hard as it is, overlooking the small and inconsequential things can help bring a man closer to you because he will see you as someone who doesn’t take life too seriously.
Don’t go on and on about the future
It’s incredibly hard not to focus on where you want the relationship to go when you feel like it’s the “right” connection for you. As a woman, you probably enjoy planning things, and your future definitely falls into that category. If you mention taking the relationship to the next level before your guy is ready to hear it, an invisible emotional barrier will go up and he will fight with you to take things to a more serious place. A man who is not sure he wants to commit can become very protective of his space and time.
If you act like you don’t care if the relationship ends in a more committed place, he’ll find you incredibly charming and intriguing. The men are accused of dealing with women who are chasing the dream of a happily ever after wedding and engaged future. They know that sooner or later, if the two of you hit it off, the inevitable conversation about how many kids you want or what style of home you want to live in is on the not-too-distant horizon. Surprise him by staying silent about anything to do with commitment. If you can do that, he’ll wonder, sooner rather than later, why you’re not eager to get him to take the relationship to a more serious place.
Don’t lose focus on your own goals
A big mistake women make when trying to build a strong and lasting connection with a man is that they start sacrificing their own lives for his. If you start giving up your own interests, your own career goals, or your friends for a man, he will find you much less interesting. He doesn’t want you to give your life for him. First of all, he shows that you do not value yourself as an important, valuable and successful human being. You are willing to trade what you want for a man. Any man who finds out that a relationship is not worth having go looking for because he will take your behavior as a sign that you want to be controlled.
Also, if you start giving up the things you enjoy in order to have more time with your guy, it makes him feel like he has to fill all that empty space. In other words, if you repeatedly cancel plans with friends or rearrange your work schedule to accommodate him, he will feel responsible for your time and happiness. That is a heavy burden for any man in a growing relationship. You don’t want that to happen.
Show your man that you are not willing to sacrifice the woman that you are for him. It’s important that he understands that he has to fit into the life you already have. If he feels, even for a moment, that you are becoming dependent on him for your happiness or that he has to be there to take up your time, he will begin to feel pressure or resentment and eventually the relationship will likely fail.