Do you use sex as bait to get men involved? Have you considered the downside of this?
Sex is only a temporary pleasure, and the adverse consequences are beyond what can be seen with the naked eye.
When you are single and continue to become emotionally and intimately involved with the opposite sex, you expose yourself to sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, etc. and in particular the dreaded ‘Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome’, AIDS. Millions of people around the world, especially young people who are more sexually active, have died from this disease. Not to mention many more who have been kept miserable over the years by these STDs.
Many young ladies turned themselves into sex machines in men’s bedrooms due to their poverty mentality. Many of them do not work. Some are so lazy that they don’t even want to work. You don’t have money to cover your most basic needs. They cannot provide themselves with something as cheap as sanitary napkins to control their monthly menstrual cycles. As a result, you use sex to trick men into giving you money.
To remain fashion conscious and savvy, many women sacrifice their bodies. Even if your income is meager, you want to keep up with fashion. You have a lot of boyfriends just because you need a lot of ‘donors’ to allow you to continue living your fake life.
Why is this a problem?
In the course of these sexual adventures, many young women have contracted unwanted pregnancies. When you conceive for a stranger, you are faced with two monsters. One, go through an abortion to terminate the pregnancy or two, give birth to the baby like a bastard. During the operation, mostly performed by charlatans, some women suffer damage to the uterus for life. And still others dump their newborns in garbage collection centers or bushes where they eventually cry to death or are picked up for the homes of motherless babies.
Scripture says that the love of money is the root of all evil. Today, most men love money more than anything else. And they want easy money and so they visit idols where they make all kinds of sacrifices to get money. Women who easily fall in love with men become prey at the hands of those evil men.
Sex is not synonymous with love. When you submit to a man sexually, he will use, abuse and abandon you. That relationship eventually ends and you become the loser because you will feel disappointed, rejected, frustrated, and abandoned.
On the other hand, when you exhibit good conduct and good character, you become your man’s favorite. You have respect. You send honor. You send dignity. Your man cares about you and pays more attention to you and your needs. It will be proposed to you. They will get married and experience the kind of relationships they have never dreamed of together.
When I was still single and looking for my perfect life partner, I went on several dates. What I discovered was that he had more respect and honor for those with whom he had no carnal acquaintance. I cared more about them. I called and texted them more often. I paid more attention to them and their well-being. But once I had sex with someone, the love and emotions started to wane. If it was someone I didn’t like at all, I could easily be left a ghost at that point because it seemed like there was nothing else left to explore.
What do you do instead to attract the love of your life?
First, you must set your limits. You need to establish your deciding factors. Those are your standards, your values that you cannot compromise. Politely, right from the start, you let your partner know that sex, for example, is a ‘no-go’ area for you in the relationship. You need to maintain your integrity because that limit will be tested. The boy would like to see if you meant it.
You have to be a woman of good character. You will be polite, kind, and considerate. Extend an olive branch to your partner and everyone who crosses your path. Be authentic and vulnerable! Openness is a great virtue.
Don’t be self-centered. Think more about what you can do for him. Support him to achieve his goals to the extent that he is invited. Offer advice or help only when he asks for it. Give it peace of mind and never try to change it.
They say that an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Of course, get involved in meaningful activities. If you don’t have a job, learn one skill or another that you are passionate about. You can also join any volunteer service you like in your area. The idea is to stay busy and participate in a meaningful way.
In general, if you maintain your sanity and your virginity, you become irresistible to quality men. No man likes women who use sex to set him up. Marriage is honorable and it is a sacred institution where you do not need to contaminate your body before the time comes.